What to do if, in a fit of passion, you call your partner a different name or a child suddenly enters the bedroom, a sexologist advises.
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Sex has little to do with porn scenes: in real life, you can press your elbow against your partner’s hair, feel a cramp and – let’s be honest – give rise to sounds and smells that are not at all sexy. Below is a list of uncomfortable situations that anyone can fall into, and tips for resolving them.
1. Name your partner by the name of the former / former
This happens all the time, but this does not mean that your current partner will take the situation with humor. The moment will require emotional processing.
First of all, apologize and assure your partner that you only want to be with him, and the past relationship is over.
2. Facial expression during orgasm
Approaching orgasm, people cease to control themselves. And at this moment they look far from cute.
What to do
Remember that this is a good sign – it indicates that you are immersed in what is happening and your feelings. Only by letting go of your body can you enjoy the moment.
3. Gases
One of the most embarrassing moments in sex is when one of the partners passes gases. We are accustomed to feel shame about it. But at the moment of intimacy, it is important to be free and relaxed, it is difficult to combine this with our usual reaction to flatulence.
What to do
Instead of being embarrassed, laugh. If necessary, take a short break and remind yourself that you are just human.
4. Unexpected liquids
Neither menopausal women nor men who have had prostate cancer are immune from accidental urination, and breastfeeding mothers may produce milk during arousal. We tend to think of some liquids as sexy and others not. But the truth is that sex is messy and unpredictable.
What to do
Don’t let excess fluid stop you. Urine is harmless and won’t bother anyone. And breast milk is just a sign of arousal.
5. Baby in the bedroom
No one wants to have a child next to them at the moment of X. If this still happened, it remains to dramatize less.