It happens that the problem is in the mood, but in some cases the help of a doctor is required.
It usually takes a few minutes for a man to reach orgasm. But sometimes the process, despite all efforts, is delayed or ejaculation does not happen at all.
From time to time, almost everyone faces such difficulties: only 25% of men can boast that they reach a peak with every sexual contact.
However, it also happens that there are no easy orgasms for a very long time or never happened at all. Then they talk about anorgasmia. A more complete medical name is delayed, or delayed, ejaculation. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) uses this definition of pathology: it is a noticeable delay or absence of ejaculation in almost all contacts (75-100%) for six months, which causes anxiety in a person.
All the mentioned criteria rarely coincide completely, so only about 8% of men make the diagnosis .
Anorgasmia is divided into primary and secondary. Primary arises from the first contact and continues throughout life. The secondary begins after some time of a normal sexual life.
Why sometimes men can’t cum
An orgasm is an intense emotional experience that is accompanied by muscle contractions, the release of chemicals into the bloodstream, and ejaculation. So anything can break at any stage.
Psychological reasons
It can be:
- problems in current relationships;
- fear of sexually transmitted infections or pregnancy;
- anxiety, depression and other disorders;
- abuse of pornography;
- upbringing in an environment where sex is something dirty and taboo.
Physical reasons
Physical factors include:
- aging;
- taking certain medications, such as antidepressants, drugs for high blood pressure, anticonvulsants;
- alcohol abuse;
- drug addiction;
- neurological diseases such as stroke, spinal cord injury, multiple sclerosis;
- diabetes;
- hypothyroidism;
- thrombosis of the vessels of the penis;
- complications after surgery, such as prostatectomy.
What you can do yourself if you have a problem with orgasms
Sexologist Vanessa Marin recommends adjusting your lifestyle and trying new things in bed.
Try to understand yourself
Ask yourself questions: Have you always had problems with orgasm or did it just start recently? Do they appear during sex with a certain partner? Or at some point in your life? Orgasm is difficult to achieve all the time or from time to time?
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